As we age, our loneliness grows. For some people, being alone can be extremely hard to deal with. In their old age, at least, they feel good knowing they have their spouse with them, through it all. But dealing with the death of a spouse can be quite devastating for anyone, and especially, elders. Not only does grief leave them dumbfounded, they feel like they were dependant on their spouses for many things and now that they are gone, they can’t seem to do those tasks themselves. It is a difficult situation for any age but more so when you are old, since you do not have your kids around or your job to keep you distracted and help you get back to a life of normalcy.
Don’t Feel Bad To Ask For Help
During trying times, it is okay to ask for help and that is exactly what you should be doing if you feel like the situation is getting out of control. Your children, friends and other family members understand your plight, and if you need to talk to them, stay with them for a while or ask them to help you complete and manage your daily chores, it is 100% okay and fine. If you are too ill and your spouse used to take care of you, try to arrange for a caregiver.
Don’t Try To Make Big Changes Right Away
It will be difficult for you to adjust to change right away, however, the new situation might force you to do so. But do not make changes right away. Take it slow and easy and find out what are the tasks that need to be taken care of. If that means making major changes to your lifestyle, then make them gradually when you are really comfortable doing them.
Go For Walks With Friends
Even if you didn’t use to walk before, start now. It will be a good excuse to get some exercise and keep your body active. At the same time, walking with a close friend will give you the opportunity to discuss your situation and even maybe receive some advice. Talking always helps. Grief needs time to heal and if you are not healing naturally, you might have to visit a counselor. But if you keep talking and express all your concerns and anguish, you might not need it.
Getting involved and keeping yourself busy can be a good distraction for your messy mind right now. The community center needs a lot of volunteers. If you want to go and make yourself useful, you might be able to help others and it will keep your mind away from your own condition. Gardening, swimming, being part of a chorus, joining exercise classes, or teaching a skill that you are an expert in, to others can be great for you.
Adopt A Pet
Adopting a pet at this time of your life is advisable only if you are physically able to take full care of it. If you have a caregiver who is willing to do that for you, you can adopt then too. A pet will not only provide you with emotional support but will also be your companion all the time. A dog can be good for security reasons too, which is very necessary at old age.
Spend More Time With Your Grandchildren
Children can be a great distraction and science has proven that spending more time with your grandchildren, helps in making your life longer and healthier. If it helps your children, babysit them when you can. Just have an excuse to be with them more often. It is not just you but children also benefit a lot from being close to their grandparents.
Grief, desperation, and loneliness often push elders toward depression. Don’t let that happen to you. It is good to remember that death is part of a natural cycle that helps human beings reproduce new life and thrive.